In recent articles on "Why Most Relationships Fail" and "Selfishness vs. Self Esteem" I make the following points: 1. That most individuals come into a relationship from a place of need. 2. This "needy" state originates from the stored "traumatic" experiences that one carries in their conscious and unconscious mind. 3. Such traumatic memories shut down one's experience of themselves as well as the ability to feel OK within one's self. 4. When the "I'm OK in myself" feeling is absent this erodes one's self esteem, self worth and self confidence. 5. An erosion of self esteem leads one to desperately try to fill the "lack" of self esteem through others. 6. This creates a situation where the individual needs the other person to love and appreciate them in order to feel OK while they themselves feel internally afraid that their "defect" will be exposed. 7. This causes the individual to play a dishonest game with themselves and the other. 8. This makes them feel anxious, vulnerable to being exposed, unable to fully be intimate with their partner and thereby leads to self sabotaging behaviors and the eventual demise of the relationship. Having said all of this there is a way out of this dilemma. It requires some courage and entails addressing and releasing the negative traumatic life memories that one carries within. A new modality called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) has been shown to quickly and permanently restore ones sense of self, one's self esteem, self worth, self confidence, a sense of personal honesty with self and others, and most importantly the feeling that "I'm OK". With this foundation securely anchored the ability to achieve intimacy, one of the key ingredients for a successful relationship, will be firmly in place. |
