How does one talk his/her spouse into living the Swinging Lifestyle? More importantly, why would you want to? Understanding that you desire to experience erotic, sexual encounters with others is quite apparent but as a couple both of you must desire the same. Talking your spouse into sharing themselves as well as his/her soul mate with others sexually is not the same as talking them into pizza over chicken for dinner or a comedy over a drama flick for entertainment. Casually bring up the subject of swinging to test the waters. If a positive response is given, continue the conversation sharing your desires and why you feel the lifestyle is something that you both can enjoy together. If you receive a negative response, do not push the issue. A pessimistic conversation could end in confrontation and hurt feelings. Simply drop the subject and reinitiate it another time. Be prepared to communicate informed. Dont only paint a pretty picture, share all facets of the lifestyle with your spouse, good and bad. This will indicate that you are not trying to talk them into this new experience but that you are simply considering embarking upon something new and different with them. Never make the conversation about only your wants and desires, listen and hear what your spouse conveys as well. Never cause an argument. If you cant communicate positively about possibly entering the lifestyle, you will not be able to live it successfully without pain and turmoil. The Swinging Lifestyle can be such an awesome enhancement to a healthy relationship. But, if it is not fun and exciting as well as fulfilling to your relationship, why involve yourselves in it? |
